Caring

The Caring types, identified as such by Viktor Gulenko, are the four types with Si in their ego block, two types in Alpha quadra and two types in Delta Quadra: ESE, SEI, LSE, and SLI.

Despite the differences between these types in terms of temperament, base function, and quadra values, it seems that in the area of physical attraction, desire, and flirting, the ego element Si is the most significant factor in determining Caring type's behavior.

Typical Characteristics of "Caring" Romancing Style

• Inclination towards smooth, easy flowing, "soft" or suave interaction with elements of playful teasing, rather than "hard" approach and direct physical provocation.
• Attraction is sparked by aesthetic and mental attributes of the prospective partner, but cools if such attributes are accompanied by an overly "aggressive" sexuality.
• Caring types are attentive in courtship. In conversation, they are inclined to focus their attention on the statements and needs of their partner, and may ask questions concerning how their partner is doing and how are they feeling.
• Interest is kept up if their partner is welcoming of their care and attention, and even evokes it, and seeks them out.
• Prone to assume that partner needs their support and help in everyday daily matters, and in meeting their needs.
• Neutral as to who ended a relationship. "Power" is not seen as important in such matters, though the ethical matters may still be of importance.

This romance style is defined by focus on Si which is dynamic, irrational, and introverted, with perceptions of the present reality and physical sensations rather than inner imagery. This means that a Caring type sees attraction between two individuals as a dynamic state, which he feels is completely natural, as he also sees the physical comfort and well-being of another person as dynamic. This accounts for a Caring type's inclination to focus on the mutual attraction, or particularly the attraction felt by the other person, as connected to that person's physical well-being. The individual's own dynamic and introverted Ne perceptions lead to a sense of sleepy drifting in them, which makes him welcome impulses from another person designed to shake him out of it from time to time.

Perception of other romance styles

This refers to perceptions of the partner in a romantic or prospective relationship.

Aggressor: Caring types tend to perceive Aggressors as a bit over-the-top in their approach to romantic interactions and sexuality and ultimately not pleasant to have stable intimate relationships with.

Victim: Caring types tend to perceive Victims as puzzling and never contented, sometimes as paranoid and insecure.

Caring: Caring types tend to perceive other Caring types as comfortable partners, but ultimately somehow less than satisfactory, having excessive focus on their needs while not clearly demonstrating their own.

Childlike: Caring types tend to perceive Childlike types as fun, interesting, and delightful partners, who make refreshing, unusual, and sometimes very clever comments, that bring a sense of joy to their lives.

Description from Life Scenarios by V. Gulenko

"Caring" man (LSE, SLI, SEI, ESE). Experienced, attentive to the inner world of a woman partner, who can positively predispose towards himself with protective courtship. In love games he very much appreciates feminine tenderness and vulnerability, and waits admiration of his life experiences and skills.

"Caring" woman (LSE, SLI, SEI, ESE). Inclined to care for her male partner. She is attracted to weak but intelligent men who accept her lead in daily activities. She likes to support, to protect, to cheer them up. These character traits that in the public opinion don't evoke respect for men, this woman forgives or finds them perfectly acceptable.

"Caring" woman is rejecting of intense, but rough caresses. Erotic games that are deprived of foreplay and based on force oppress her sexuality, thus relations with strong forceful men are often disappointing to her. The behavior of compatible man must be "child-like" i.e. reluctant, waiting-enticing. This woman loves caresses that are expressed as gentle, subtle touches of her erogenous zones. Relationship with a "Victim" man is not satisfactory to her either, because his caprices, tricks, and provocations of force from her surprise and repel her. Relations with similar to her "Caring" man after some time start to disappoint her, although she doesn't have much against such a relationship. Sooner or later, she feels a lack of spiritual connection in them.